The squeakiest wheel – not democracy - rules

Dianne St. Jean
Democracy always works, right? Think twice.
Democracy basically means the majority rules, but in order for that to truly happen, the majority have to speak up.

Yet in many instances, whether in families, the work place or on other social or government levels, that is not always the case. Rather, the old adage, “the squeaky wheel gets the grease” applies. And, those wheels don’t always necessarily represent the majority.
You know the scenario – we see it in stores and restaurants - the family that has more than one kid, maybe even a few, and the one that screams and throws fits is the one that gets what he or she is demanding. And why is that? Because the parents can’t stand to see the child cry either out of a manipulated sense of pity, or just to shut them up because they hate the screaming. And what about the other kids in the family – the ones who stand by quietly and wait for the scenario to end? They might have wanted the very same thing their spoiled little brother or sister got, but because they didn’t make a scene and demand it, they do without.
The example might be that of a family with a spoiled kid, but the same conditions can be applied on different levels of society.
It seems that more and more the people who get their way are those “squeaky wheels”, yet that does not mean they represent the majority.
More often than not the majority in many groups or societies do not speak up because they are like those parents or siblings of the spoiled kid. They hate confrontation or don’t know how to handle it and just want the screaming to go away.
So, what happens?
Eventually those who were previously too polite or afraid to speak up begin to push back, and what you have is what appears to be sudden division. The truth is, division always existed, but those involved were never trained how to resolve conflict properly.
The results of the American election are a prime example. I wonder if it’s not so much that those who voted Trump in are against minority groups, as the American people in general have not learned the art of “Live and let live” rather than, “Either I win and you lose, or I lose and you win”. In other words, in their attempt to get what they want, people want to simultaneously have the desires and rights of others removed. So how does that make them any different from those they disagree with?
What I believe we saw in the results of the American election, and why people were so shocked at the outcome, is that Clinton’s followers were presumed to be the majority. Obviously, they weren’t.
The unfortunate thing about all this is the formerly described “push and shove” reaction that finally occurs as everyone panics to maintain their position.
Let’s see if some miracle can happen, and while the world watches, maybe America will be forced to set the example of learning to grow up and strive for genuine cooperation and justice all in a proper fashion